Finders Keepers Losers Weepers – Relationship Advice
One of the most successful dating hints is “Lose the Losers”. I know it sounds somewhat rude and cruel, but its dating and we are not here for charity purposes. We are fully aware that each individual has value, but in matters of life and relationships, we should go a step beyond just being a “nice” person. Frankly you don’t owe your date anything, not even a second date. Sex is definitely out. Perhaps a few kind words and some kinder gestures. That’s all there is between you and the date. At least for the moment.
At this stage, let me clarify one important issue. We are not referring to “Losers” as opposites of “Winners”. We refer to them as Losers and Keepers. There are plenty of dates who are keepers, till they fail to meet your expectations. Others are simply losers. Losers, more often than not are glorious people, but then so are you. The crux is he/she the right person for you. Try and look and dating as a harmless gambling expedition, you win some, you lose some.
The first problem starts when one of the couple feel obligated to the other person. It can happen when the man spends a lot of money in gifts and enjoyment, the woman feels obligated to have sex with him. If the man is kind, gentle and well-mannered, the woman feels obligated to go out for a second date with him.
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This is where the mismatch starts. You must find enough reasons to see your date, but don’t be “obliged” for anything, and make it your duty to meet up. Stop dating the person if you no longer find him/her attractive. If you are true to yourself, may be you stick to the person, who you have a lot o admiration and respect for. For these are sustainable qualities in a human being. If you meet a man who satisfies your needs and desires, see him by all means. If he fails, then he is dating a loser. Remember Loser is not a derogatory word. There are enough excellent losers in the world who date, marry and live happily ever after. Loser is a person who is not RIGHT FOR YOU.
Do a constant review of the relationship, if its working for you or not. A man is a keeper during every single date, till he is a throwback. You should relax because you are merely dating, not entering the commitment arena yet. A man becomes a throwback as soon as he stops meeting your requirements for a long, committed relationship.
For a meaningful relationship that is near-perfect, look for a keeper. And the way to go about it is, first, lose the losers. Be fussy and choosy till you find one.